Rompimentos de vínculos afetivos e o luto em casais de homens gays

Abstract

Grief is a process characterized by the rupture of an affective bond and which is not necessarily connected with the concrete death of a body. Thinking about breaking ties and relationships in life can be considered as a loss experienced and, therefore, tends to cause different subjective and individual responses in people, which are directly related to the social spaces in which such bereaved subjects find themselves. In this way, intending reflections on the rupture of affective relationships between men’s who consider themselves cisgender homosexuals and their effects in heteronormative societies is the central objective of this research. For that, we are based on theoretical references that explore the theme of grief and also on studies on sexual and gender diversity, with emphasis on theoretical productions that discuss the social effects of this rupture with a view beyond the common pattern, that is, we sought to broaden the understanding grief to an ethical-political and socially crossed category. As a method, this study circumvents a field research based on the qualitative method, with interviews gay men’s who experienced an affective-sexual rupture. Thus, after prior approval of the research by the Ethics Committee and the dissemination of the proposal on social networks, six interviews were carried out, in person and online, according to the preference of each participant. The meetings took place individually, exploring points such as: coping, existence or not of support networks, subjective effects of the separation itself and the possibility of having or not having their grief socially recognized and validated. After the conclusion of the meetings, transcription and reading, a narrative was elaborated that aggregates and presents the contents of each interview. Each narrative gives expression to a particularity in the way of experiencing grief according to the report of what was learned. From these narratives, we can understand that there are factors that lead subjects who do not fit into heteronormative norms to experience grief in isolation, without relying on support and shelter networks. However, we can also find in the narratives the effort of the participants to build unique trajectories that use the experience of grief as an opportunity to reinvent life.